Question 1

What actually happens in couples sex therapy?

Accepted Answer

Sex therapy is talk therapy focused on sexuality, intimacy, and your relationship. We'll explore what's happening between you, identify patterns that may be getting in the way of connection, and develop practical skills to move forward. You will never be asked to engage in sexual activity during a therapy session.

Question 2

Do we have to talk about details of our sex life?

Accepted Answer

Only to the extent that it is helpful and you feel comfortable. We may discuss sexual experiences, desires, concerns, and patterns, but you are always in control of what you share.

Question 3

What if we're embarrassed or worried you'll judge us?

Accepted Answer

You don't need to worry about shocking me. I've worked with sexuality and relationships for over a decade and have heard a wide range of questions, experiences, desires, and concerns. I'm not here to judge or shame you.

Question 4

What if we have different levels of sexual desire?

Accepted Answer

Differences in desire are very common. We can work on understanding what influences each partner's desire, communicating needs without pressure or shame, and finding mutually satisfying ways to experience intimacy and connection.

Question 5

Do you work with LGBTQIA2+ couples, ENM/polyamorous relationships, and kink?

Accepted Answer

Yes. My practice is affirming of LGBTQIA2+ identities and relationships, consensual non-monogamy and polyamory, and consensual kink. You don't need to fit a traditional relationship model for your relationship or sexuality to be respected here.

Question 6

Can you help us if one of us has experienced sexual trauma or assault?

Accepted Answer

Yes. I have experience working with sexual trauma and its impact on individuals, relationships, intimacy, trust, boundaries, and sexual connection. We can work carefully and collaboratively to understand how those experiences may be affecting your relationship while keeping safety and consent at the center.

Question 7

What if the sexual trauma happened within our relationship?

Accepted Answer

We can talk about what happened and what each partner needs moving forward. When appropriate, couples therapy can support communication, accountability, boundaries, and rebuilding trust. Safety is always the first priority, and I will assess whether couples therapy is an appropriate setting for your particular circumstances.

Question 8

Why choose virtual couples sex therapy?

Accepted Answer

Virtual therapy allows you to do this work from a space where you already feel comfortable and supported. You can use familiar surroundings, comfort items, and even your own bedroom or living space when appropriate.Being in your own environment can also help identify and work with factors that influence intimacy—such as privacy, sensory needs, routines, distractions, and the physical space where connection actually happens. When clinically appropriate, practicing new ways of communicating and repairing in your own environment can help bring those skills into everyday life.

Question 9

Do we need to be in the same place for virtual sessions?

Accepted Answer

Yes. Both partners need to be physically together in the same private location during couples sessions. Being together allows me to observe the full range of how you interact, including body language, facial expressions, physical cues, and other nonverbal communication.

Question 10

How long will we be in sex therapy?

Accepted Answer

There is no predetermined timeline. Some couples want focused support around a specific concern, while others benefit from longer-term work. We'll regularly assess your progress and what would be most helpful for your relationship.

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